First you have to think: What is your starting point for others? Is it to make others treat you well? Or is this meant to satisfy your heart?
Let me take the relationship between me and my wife as an example. I used to think that the opposite of doing what you don’t want to do to others should also be true, that is, if I do it to you, then you should do it to me. For example, if I did not interfere with you too much, then you should not interfere with me either. I don't ask you to do this, then you shouldn't ask me to do this either. But I overlooked the fact that people are not the same, everyone’s values and outlook on life are different, the circles in which they live are also different, and the focus of attention is also very different . So the consequence of thinking like this is that my wife still can't understand why I just can't do some very simple things, and I still don't understand why she is always angry about some insignificant things. Anyway, the result is that my wife and I often have conflicts.
Until later I read some books, finally figured out these problems, and also have a way to deal with them, now we have very few conflicts. The most recommended here are "The Courage to Be Disgusted" and "The Courage of Happiness". The concept of " Separation of Subjects " mentioned in them has benefited me a lot in particular. What does this mean? In layman's terms, it is my own choice to treat you well. It has nothing to do with you. Whether you will treat me well because I treat you well is your business, and I cannot decide or control it. So I don't have to worry about it, I just make my own choice.
So, you are the same. It is your own choice to treat others well. Whether others will treat you well or be willing to have a deep friendship with you because of this is the choice of others. You cannot control it, and this is not you. mistake. What you should do is to stick to your choices, get feedback from others' reactions, and then think about whether you can do better, instead of worrying about gains and losses based on others' reactions, so that you can be a better version of yourself! And often the more so, in fact, the more you will find that the world will become more friendly!