1. Look at yourself like an actor
In "Actor's Self-cultivation", it is said that actors are in a state of "schizophrenia" when performing. On the one hand, he must try to experience what the character is thinking and fully immerse himself in the character's life; on the other hand, he must always "monitor" his performance as an actor to ensure that every technical point is accurate . This very "split" self-surveillance is what the author calls "internal stage self-feeling."
Actors do, and so do people. When people are in society, in communication, and when they present themselves, they should also pay attention to checking themselves to see if they are real, natural, rational, and loving.
This is not so much "performance" as it is "cultivation".
If you can "do it", you will "get it".
2. Who can stop it?
Why do you feel happy when someone says they like you?
First, you are affirmed, which further proves that you are good, and makes up for the inferiority complex that people have from time to time.
People's confidence in themselves needs constant charging from the outside world, and it is difficult for people to always be full of confidence.
The second is that you feel love and feel that you expect more love to come.
Conversely, he is always happy when you express your liking.
Whoever compliments him, he's always happy as long as it's true.
The side effect is that after a long time, he really thinks he is fine.
3. To give is to receive
Winston Churchill said, "We live by what we get, but we live by what we give."
This sentence is difficult to understand directly.
"What you get will never bring you lasting happiness, but who you become and what you give will bring you lasting happiness."
People who don't understand this sentence still don't understand it.
The logic behind it is this:
Axiom 1: In this world, everyone needs love, and love makes people warm and happy.
Axiom 2: When you love someone, you must give them good feelings. Such as giving him good things, caring for him, pleasing him, helping him.
Axiom 3: It is human nature to reciprocate. As long as we sincerely help and care for others, others will return sooner or later.
Therefore, giving is love; when people feel love, they give back love.
Many people give without expecting anything in return, because to love someone you love is essentially to love yourself; what you give is actually to yourself.
Figure: "Drunk City Women"
It would be happier if there was a reward for it.
4. Must be fierce
The founding emperor of the Ming Dynasty, Zhu Yuanzhang, hated the tyranny of Meng Yuan the most, but he also believed that "to bring down China, it must be violent". He took all the power, drained all the vitality of the society, and brought everyone back to the atomic state.
As Mr. Qin Hui said: "The so-called Qin system is effective. To put it bluntly, the gentleman can't fight the villain, the civilized person can't fight the barbarian, and the person who chooses the means can't fight the unscrupulous people."
However, wolf culture will eventually lose out to human culture.
The atomized poor masses with good human needs, once organized by advanced ideas and technologies, will regain power sooner or later, more or less, from those who enslaved people with savage violence and imprisoned people with ignorant dogma wolf group hands.
5. Asking and not asking
Rhonda Byrne told a painter in "The Secret" that you paint what you want, and what you want will be attracted.
Why don't you fight, things will be attracted? And such good things?
In a truly first-class mind, there are always two diametrically opposed thoughts:
One is wanting, the other is not wanting.
When you draw it, you will have a "mind image", and then you will have a "willing force", which will make you move towards the goal consciously or unconsciously.
If the conditions are not met, you can rest in the Chinese fire of "No Seeking".
If you don’t ask, you don’t deliberately, forcefully, or anxiously, you can focus on valuable things in a better state.
Once the conditions are ripe, the fire will be launched, and it will be captured.
Su Dongpo said, "Effort is poor."
6. The Weakness of the Scholar
The most obvious characteristic of most academic bullies is that they are not active.
Do not take the initiative to approach key figures, do not take the initiative to publicize and package yourself, do not take the initiative to shape your core advantages and reputation, and do not take the initiative to seek opportunities to show your face and improve.
In short, the face is not thick enough, the figure is not soft enough, the means are not enough, and the courage is not enough.
Because Xueba loves face, Xueba never thought about these things, nor did they learn them.
—Excerpted from the public account "Old Secretary" 1
7. The next generation who cannot see clearly
Yi Zhongtian said: "The next generation looks at the previous generation, it is definitely better than the previous generation to look at the next generation, and see clearly."
What's the point of this?
Because the things of the previous generation have been settled, it is easy to see clearly; the things of the next generation are still unknown.
This is like: people today look at the ancients more clearly than the ancients look at people today.
There are many new things that the previous generation did not understand and did not want to understand. Even if they wanted to understand, they might still not understand.
The next generation has been dealing with these new things since childhood.
What the previous generation has to do is to help the next generation see the previous generation as soon as possible.
Others, do not see clearly, do not interfere.
Finally, two golden sentences are attached:
1. I didn’t have a schedule when I was CEO, but knew roughly what was important, in short, don’t let the important become urgent. - Duan Yongping
2. Learning is simple, but it is not easy.
https://zhuanlan.zhihu.com/p/151974267