Beijing is such a big city, colorful and full of temptations. It is easy for a young person to get lost in Beijing. The root of getting lost is often the fear of missing out. People with FOMO may not be aware of what they are missing, but still fear the moment of missing it. They worry that someone else might gain some very important information or have a very meaningful experience and benefit from it. And I didn't.
With the popularization of the Internet and the rise of social networks, the amount of information people are exposed to has surged, and the phenomenon of FOMO has intensified, and more and more people suffer from this anxiety disorder. In 2013, the concept of "fear of missing out" was included in the Oxford Dictionary for the first time.
Human beings are naturally curious about new things that are happening in life, including other people's interesting experiences. We always desire to be connected to this world, close or distant, and no one really wants to be disconnected from society. And the popularization of the Internet puts a wider and richer world in front of you. There was a complaint on the Internet before that was very appropriate, "Now the Internet is really developed, and you can be angry with netizens thousands of miles away without leaving your home." What followed was a massive amount of information. In summer, when you walk on the scorched asphalt road, you can also feel the sound of binary code flowing in the hot air around you
Information is everywhere. It is a pity that as human beings, our time and energy are limited, and our ability to process information is also limited. We cannot catch up with all the new things, nor can we know all the information. Pursuing the infinite with the limited will naturally be full of fear of missing.
So how to deal with the fear of missing out and reduce the anxiety it brings?
1. Sort out your information acquisition channels
You need to spend a little time sorting out your information channels, first determine the direction you are interested in, and then focus on several information sources for each direction, such as Weibo, official account, column, etc. It should be noted that if the content is related to opinions, try to pay attention to relatively neutral information sources, or simply pay attention to several channels with opposite opinions to prevent prejudice. Of course, independent thinking is also indispensable. In addition, you also need to set a period of inspection for each "information channel", regularly review the "revenue" of each Weibo channel, clean up low-quality concerns, filter out noise, and ensure that your information channels have relatively high value , can obtain effective information and knowledge, so that the time you spend is directly proportional to the benefits. With your own channel, you will not be fascinated by the colorful world outside.
2. Make peace with yourself and admit that your time and energy are limited
If you are not the kind of workaholic who is naturally energetic and radiant with 4 hours of sleep every day, except for work needs and life chores, the time left in the day may only be enough for you to focus on 1-2 things, you don’t Possibly do all you want. After admitting that your energy is limited, it is to prioritize what you have to do and the information you want to obtain, and make trade-offs, choose your important items, prioritize and avoid consuming trivial and irrelevant knowledge areas Too much energy. When you know that what you are doing is the most valuable, the information you want to obtain will be more concentrated, and there is a high probability that you will only pay attention to the information that is useful to you at this stage. In this way, the fear of missing out due to all kinds of messy information Symptoms will be alleviated or even disappear. Many times, people are anxious because they want to know and want to know too much. In fact, it doesn’t have to be like this. Three hundred and sixty lines, you can become the champion in every line, just grasp a general direction that you focus on.
3. Plan your time according to Google's 70-20-10 principle
In order to avoid risks, reserve resources for projects with a higher probability of success, and at the same time prevent itself from missing out on potential innovative projects, Google adopted the classic "70-20-10" working principle——70% of its power is invested in core business, 20 10% of the power is invested in related businesses, and 10% of the power can be used to explore new businesses. The 70-20-10 working principle ensures that the core business occupies most of the resources, the booming new business enjoys certain investment, and at the same time, the whimsical and crazy ideas also get a certain amount of support. This principle is also applicable to the allocation of time and energy. We can spend about 70% of our time on "improving capabilities", that is, information related to work and career development; Some new knowledge systems”, for example, if you want to learn photography and write a public account, you can use this part of your time; the other 10% of your energy is used to “obtain various scattered inspirations”, such as those related to personal interests or group interests information.
4. Disconnection in thinking
Having said so much, it is also very important to do a good job of breaking your mind, and practice discerning what is really important and necessary to you, and what is just wanted. Making information choices can effectively relieve the anxiety after missing out. The storage space and calculation speed of the brain have a certain capacity. If we keep absorbing, a lot of useless information will occupy the calculation space of the brain, slow down the efficiency of processing important events, and make people more anxious. Therefore, making information choices can eliminate our regret for missing information and effectively release some useless resources that occupy the brain. Ignoring things that don’t contribute to the quality of our lived experience and saying “no” to more information frees up more time to devote to experiences that are more meaningful to us. In information screening, quality is often more important than quantity.
Finally, the phobia of missing out largely comes from the imagination and exaggeration of the consequences of missing out, so we might as well reverse thinking, if you really miss these information and activities, how much it will affect you, it can be regarded as a desensitization treatment The law can also help you find your unchanging things in this ever-changing era.