Recent personnel changes, I'm gonna be in charge of the sale of the Southwest Region. Today, the gap in Chengdu, visiting clients, find some of my colleagues talk.
A colleague full of complaint: travel in Chengdu has been two years, has been concedes, he would like to return Gansu find a girlfriend get married and have children.
I was surprised that the baby should he graduated from elementary school, not even his wife, sin a sin. He then asked how much? 30.
It seems in vain, more than I imagined young. What weekends are usually asked to do? Make sense to play the game. Well, such a state could find a wife but a little strange.
Next to colleagues explain that he is a developer, in recent years in the field to do the implementation and localization of the transformation products, is a technical Montana. In order to reassure him stay in Chengdu good work, it seems the focus is to solve his life events.
Project group who have married to his ideas, joke after half a day, to relieve his emotions, but did not solve his single problem fundamentally.
Now there is an interesting phenomenon. Company employees scattered around the country, there are a considerable number of older programs apes (men) and procedures Yuan (female). Between them because of the lack of a communication channel, because programmers shy or other reasons, the exchange of two circles is too small, so everyone just a single.
I am also a reflection, from the management area, the main person responsible for the employees concerned are not in place. Although Zhao Xifu thing, we can not decide, but he can help improve personal cultivation, make it easier for him to complete the removal order.
In addition, we are brothers in Sichuan, not many people, a gang of men eighty-nine. Weekend stay home, do not smell things, how it can do it.
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Finally, we discussed a range of feasible solutions. details as follows. Purely entertainment, focusing on execution. To really, will be able to succeed.
01 Opening yourself a little
How to translate this word it? Open it? Bolder? In this regard seems to have a little meaning. From the heart to give myself cheer. Do not fear of girls roll your eyes, do not fear disgrace refused. Commonly known as thick skin.
As a programmer, long-term deal with the computer, adapt QQ micro letter word crap, but lack the ability to communicate face to face. From the "Programmer's self-cultivation" point of view:
As a future IT managers, not good at communication, have not learned the essence, it is difficult to achieve higher dan. We often joke: a woman can get a man, certainly was a good sales.
Because of what? Woman's mind men are hard to guess. A woman can understand, it is humanity. Understand human nature, I know how to get along with people, you can sell a step closer relationship transformed into transaction, and then converted into profits.
02 strengthening exercise
Many girls like it is man's man. What is it? Yes, that, see FIG.
Man wants to maintain its strong and powerful body. Let itself strongly exudes the kind of male hormones. Let the girls were charmed.
Do not do transsexuals. We are professionals, not traffic niche, not mere copycat. It should do more exercise, deliberate practice, to build their perfect physique. The kind of self-reliance spirit gas, is the man who captured the hearts of Meng Mei's core competitiveness.
You can watch a movie "American Beauty", the movie actor who suffered a midlife crisis, rebellious girl ring true cause of his wife derailment.
A small LORI youthful appearance and her temptation to let his male self-esteem revive lit off his self-esteem and life. His daily exercise, his own bloated body gradually build into a robust middle-aged mature sportsman, also regained confidence.
03 to strengthen the cultural enrichment
After we graduated, we may have very little reading. As the saying goes: ugly people would read more books. Read more, it kind of charisma naturally will show. Certainly attract the attention of many girls.
From Jingdong, Amazon sales charts select TOP N books. People's eyes are sharp, high-quality sales Books generally not bad. Colleagues say he likes to see the figure of this book.
I immediately replied: line. It is said that releases were professors deleted four thousand words. You put these words together, enjoy over, for everyone to be reading to share. To say the story, multi-tactical analysis of them, not theory.
I wanted to give them a lot of recommended books, then think about it, had no time to read, more books, more pressure rather than see it? !
Ok. For the current problem, we targeted to recommend a book to share actual combat cases better, tomorrow under the single gave him a "devil accosted school."
04 Note dress
To wash it every day, wash up, to be dressed, do not wear big pants. Pay attention to personal hygiene instruments. We like to judge by appearances inevitable, so the first impression of a person is very important.
By changing these start from the heart, so that they have the characteristics of certain attractions, and lay the foundation for the later girls talking and further exchanges.
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Next, let's talk about the sister under tricks. Of course we want these methods are used in the right way.
Author of "devil accosted study" points out the modern society has changed greatly. For example, a very high success rate approached one case approached the mother and daughter combination. Aunt street to see a beautiful and dignified and generous with his own daughter out to the streets, then you go directly say: "Auntie, I want to know your daughter, can not you?" A very high success rate.
阿姨如果打量你还算顺眼，基本上都会说"那好吧，那你们认识一下吧。"，这跟我们过去观念不一样，过去早十几年前在街上敢这么干，"臭流氓"，肯定就得骂，所以社会在变化。
书中提到了"泡妞学”当中的重要理论，分层升级理论，也就是男女双方在沟通过程中，从不认识到成为男女朋友，要一层一层的建立情感基础，然后由男性来主导，逐层引导升级。
分层升级理论分为五层：从搭讪阶段的不认识，到认识、要到电话号码或微信号，到普通朋友，到好朋友，到男女朋友，这是五层，你要逐层升级。
分层升级有两个要点要注意。
第一，在每个层次内部你要好好的打磨情感基础，不要慌忙。在过程当中你要逐步的去建立跟女孩子的情感交流。
这种情感交流一旦建成，一定要用男性思维去主导升级。为什么呢？这也是女孩子的需求，叫安全感，就是我们俩的感情已经到这个状态，如果你再不去主导升级的话，你就不是个男人。
你该升级的时候不升级，你当然就不是个男人，你不到升级的时候你调戏她，你就是个流氓。
搭讪的时候，如果她愿意跟你亲切的、友好的谈话，这个阶段就扎实了，马上就可以要微信或电话，进入第二个阶段，那就认识阶段了。认识阶段，如果她不拒绝跟你沟通，这就已经是很好的信号。
第二、女性思维是指向时间上的当下，既不指向过去也不指向未来。
比方街头搭讪，女孩问你："我为什么要认识你啊？”
如果你回答："因为你长得漂亮，因为我很喜欢你啊，因为我觉得我们可以发展啊等等"
这些都是指向未来，都是男性思维那种目标化思维的未来时，而女孩子能接受的回答恰恰不是这种，而是当下，可能意思都差不多。
比如男孩子说"我为什么要认识你，因为刚才我突然看见你，我觉得有点心动，这是我很久没有的感觉，我怕错过这个机会，所以我头脑一热就上来了"这是一个女孩子能够接受的回答，即使她拒绝你的搭讪，也不会留下不好的印象。
所以女孩子问你"为什么要和你一起吃饭？"，你要说："因为没你我就吃不下。""我为什么要跟你回家？""因为没你我就睡不着。"等等这都是合格的回答，即使达不到目的，但是不丢分。
假设你在街上搭讪一个美女，你上去说："我要认识你一下"，女孩子如果做出以下三种反应，你认为下面哪种回答最有戏？
A.请问你有什么事吗？
B.我为什么要认识你啊？（你为什么要认识我啊？）
C.哟，你吓我一跳。
《魔鬼搭讪学》书中给出的答案是这样的：
第一种"你有什么事吗？"即使非常有的礼貌，她也是指向未来的，这就意味着女孩子启动了安全防范机制。"我跟你要发生什么事吗？"这个时候基本上就可以说"Sorry，对不起"退出就完了，因为基本就没戏。
第二种她也很警觉"你为什么要认识我？"请你给我一个理由，这是指向过去的，这个时候就是技巧了，需要非常高的技巧你才能给出一个她能接受的理由，所以这个难度是第二难的。
而第三种呢，"哟，你吓我一跳"这是描述当下、我的感受、我的状态，虽然好像你觉得我唐突了美人，我非常不礼貌，但是对不起，这恰恰是最有戏的一种。
所以根据街头搭讪的这种比例统计，只要你耐心的往下说，基本上要到电话的可能性是百分之百的，所以这就是指向当下的重要性。
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接下来怎么办？约呀，约出来吃饭看电影。如何操作，这就又复杂了一些。我们可以利用项目管理理论有效完成与女生的第一次约会。因这方面内容太长，包含了我压箱底的秘籍，以及我对项目管理的理解。后期将会单独开篇介绍此法。
约会时，我不会聊天，怕见光死，有没有相应的方法？
想多了，以大多数人的努力程度，还没到硬拼战术的时候。好技巧只能帮你开个好头。行百里路半九十，胆量坚持才能陪你走到最后。
优秀的女孩非常多。男人要主动。请放心大胆的去追吧！
这个兄弟眼睛放着光。流着哈喇子(方言，即涎水、口水的意思)，当即表示，为了美女们，那我就试试?!
突然一个悠远的声音传来，角落里有位一直没说话的同事提了一个建议：你可以用微信或QQ“附近的人”功能，一个个约试试，成功率大约是2%。
真正的高手，身藏不露，他就在这呀！
* 作者简介：王不留(微信: wbliu85)，早上四点开启奔跑人生帅气不像实力派的一枚程序员。
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