At thirty, in today's society is a false proposition, because in the big cities, over thirty, generally "stand" is not up. So perhaps we use new perspective to interpret - thirty, not a career, but to aspire to.
My immediate leader Effie is a love toss career woman, all the way after graduation did executives at McKinsey, and then skip Party of China Resources in Hong Kong to become director. This can comfortably through retirement of the day, the result has resigned to join this Internet banking outlet; stomach was expecting her second child, Zhou Yifei also maintained a rhythm.
A few days ago she took part in the Shanghai Jiao Tong University Alumni Association, and I say now how the students regressed. I said, Well Alumni Association, will always be loaded to force some high-profile love, others located in a low-key show, hurt each other and hurt themselves wherever he goes.
This time she said no, as they age, though in this life can still mediocre Apprentice, has been able to see through. Hunde out, in a stable fast lane; not out of the mix, but also to see opened, families with the wife and kids, a house and a car, children can go to school, there is no great wealth, but also easy life.
"You do not know the last time students, and 67 years ago, when we are almost three years old at that time, everyone was so anxious, career, marriage, children, especially in the big cities of hard work, the more obvious."
She sighed. About three years old, his life is really the most anxious age.
I swallowed saliva, suddenly felt the atmosphere right, around the air had thickened, the car becomes heavy. Emma, it's not that special What to say now what I am, I rub, really good anxious ah.
Wrote an article last year, said the five-year graduation decisions of your life. At that time maybe some extreme, because the past two years their workplace transformation, can be considered to achieve the turn to overtake. But the reality is perhaps not decide graduated five years of his life, basically determines your future direction, after thirty years, life counterattack ceiling began to narrow; the workplace other track begins to close, focus only on your eyes piece.
This time horrified found that this track does not look bright, bumpy road, the hard way; the track does not open, they can not display their skill; worse, the future trajectory of the track does not soar, it seems very We will soon come to an end, even the risk of broken-down (so-called workplace ceiling) appears.
For example, taught for several years as a teacher in the confusion of China's education system under the sun at this best career really as advertised great and glorious right, in the end is the "indefatigable" or "crash tireless."
For example, all the way to the internship plus rotation finally did the doctor, speaking in selling heroin began to reflect on why the heart is to earn money selling cabbage, not all high-income people in what doctors abroad, news began to call for the protection of and respect for the doctor, the doctor how has become a vulnerable group.
Such as engaging in financial year began to doubt his own career on the felt is essentially a tall porter yuan plus pimping and bragging force. This year the economic downturn, seeing Aunt selling pancakes every morning earn more than their own. Internet banking financial entities have been beaten defeated. Or venture capital jobs, is the way out. Caichong Xin, Liu Qing of the year a few years ago, is living a financial career gorgeous transformation of fresh cases ah. Hide their faces deep sigh - Three decades east, west three years.
We have endless groove spit in his early thirties, loaded to force endless, endless pull eggs, but Bahrain force, we have a mortgage. And more people are thirty years old still can not afford housing, even when loaded to force house slaves are not eligible.
We live in the youth of the tail, began to watch their fat body - you can change the track it? Why can not anxiety.
So can only comfort the poet singer Li Jian, then own - er er, I think men thirty this is not true; now society, Rhapsody can stand on the good, ah, is this.
So this time we have to ask ourselves a question: in recent years after graduation, we are busy doing what? To win that good white Fu-mei, to the rhythm of life, the pinnacle of it when I graduate?
Finally realized that there is a failure called fuss.
There is a saying I agree with what the young is characterized? The first possibility is enough; the second is not wise. The early years of our beloved cultural businessman Yu teacher said long ago, young people are not worthy of praise, but an era full of traps. Life will encounter a trap, but a trap youth the most, the biggest, most dangerous.
Youth has the most possibility, but this possibility in the implementation of a specific person, but it is a road house. Our youth, only squandered their possibility for their future bets, youth is the only bargaining chip.
But the problem is that the same young, some people think that youth goes, hard to learn and grow, the ability to practice outside, in the practice of temperament, a few years later, the time is ripe, complete counter-attack; most people seriously underestimate their these invaluable in the beautiful youth, felt around his waist a lot of time, coupled with a good physique, do not worry, no fear, no sense of shame, also seems to work, but not good at thinking and layout, and finally into a busy but awkward blind .
Really, better young man, watching his current status and attitude, generally determine the future look like after three to five years.
Therefore, youth chips are too expensive, do not the wrong note, because most can not turn Bureau; do not make mistakes, because most can not go head; do not make detours, as it is likely to go back.
Also remember that part of the famous BBC documentary, "seven", interviewed seven year old British track fourteen different classes, to fourteen, twenty-one, twenty-eight, thirty-five and forty-two year old. Years later, the conclusion is that they do not seem to escape their own class, still the upper upper class, lower class or lower, in addition to a child born poor, and later became a university professor.
Flow class and circle is also in line with the normal distribution, most of us are wrapped in a piece under the curve "dome", leaving only a few to be the fate of palm slip through the net.
Really, we can do will be able to counter-attack, not to mention it do not work hard.
Since anxiety is inevitable, we can do is front row with anxiety, as contaminated medical perspective of life, a reason.
Own years of toil, detour, eaten loss, look back at their past sunset. I really feel that the following two points, had their own hopes to soon understand.
1. The ability to do things to improve their potential
Talked before any work is actually repeated, except that different repeat of potential; one is a simple mechanical repetition, not high-tech, such as some manual labor, professional or living brain less demanding. Last year, this year and next year things have done the same, vision, ability, quality does not grow or grow too slowly. Not industry-specific, for example, lest offend too many people.
While another repeat high gold content, each repetition are accumulated and acquired experience in the industry. For example, do consulting, investment banking. Core Competitiveness after the depth of the accumulation will be driven by the Internet, to maximize the value of expression. Because've been ready, the longer the time, the higher the potential, once the floodgates, a trading volume is likely to exceed income people sweat a year.
To this end, I specifically draw a diagram to better elucidate the relationship between their own values and time.
So, if they still young, and there is no urgent pressure for their families, then choose career or looking for work, should not be valued the most, is the moment to your salary. Do not cheap youth, because compared to the cost of time, from the future to look forward now to the salary must be cheap. Now we swap the chips youth, not the tens of thousands of salaries in January, but should be the platform, resources, contacts, and other value-added capability, these intangible things, it has time and compound interest premium space.
To put it plainly, a man of real ability, is not saying how much money, but you feel that the market is worth.
2.做擅长的事，而不是做赚钱的事。
我个人是比较认同的一个理论，就是木桶理论已死，长板理论为王优势才是王道。说白了就是得拥有一项技能是超越大众很多的。这个时代多需要专才，而不是通才。因为职场和商场，本质是资源互换。而你的那条长板就是你的核心竞争力，用来撬动其它资源的筹码。而且这条长板越明显，就越会吸引其他的资源来找你对接和互换。举个具体的例子，比如许岑老师因为PPT做的好，成为老罗身边不可或缺的人，而现在更是在淘宝卖教PPT的网络教程，开收费群等等，完成了巨大的商业变现（当然还有其他素质因素）。说白了，互联网时代吧，都是讲究资源整合，没有一项核心能力，对不起，真心只能被边缘化。
这几年摸爬滚打的职场人，在三十岁左右的年纪，我们选对了接下来的赛道了么，我们训练好自己的长板了么。
还好，社会现在对年龄更宽容了，我们还可以不要脸的说自己还年轻，还可以仰起头四十五度角仰望星空，依然热泪盈眶。
无需量力，只管前行；不怕路长，只怕心老；还没有成功，就还没有失败。
共勉。
